Harvey Gartner

I asked Harvey what he would say in a note to Gary. He said, “I love him. I’m proud of him. He’s an exemplary human being. I’m proud to be his brother.”

Greg Turner

Thank you for being such a great brother-in-law.  I learned so much from you- like how to handle the Isberg women, including Margaret. I know that wasn't easy but you helped paved the way for my "acceptance" as their son-in-law. 

I also need to thank you for bringing me to the dark side of Vodka Martinis and teaching me how to make the best chipped beef-EVER!  (Make sure Glen doesn't see this.)

I definitely enjoyed our golf outings- the play wasn't always the best, but your stories sure were!!   No matter what the subject was, you either knew all about it or had a story to tell.  

I'm going to miss you and our excursions to Houston where you always made sure we went someplace amazing to eat.  Of course, the company was sublime, the see-throughs amazing, naps were plentiful and you always made me feel welcome.

Sonia Fujimoto

Gary has one of the kindest and most generous heart. Always wiling to help others by sharing his support, knowledge and time. If there were more people like Gary in this world it would be a better place.

Linda Mims

Gary is a rare individual blessed with intelligence, wit and charm. Charitable endeavors are vitally important to him and he has worked tirelessly for many years to help those in need. His pet projects fill him with much joy and it’s been uplifting to see him so thrilled as these charities have grown over the years.

Gary is a great storyteller and he relates each story with rich and interesting detail. Everyone he knows loves him and respects him for his kindness and honesty. Gary is someone who makes you feel like there really is good in the world. If you are struggling with difficult times and issues in your life, he is there to offer his support and encouragement.

Dear Gary,

You have been an important friend in my life and I want to thank you for being a blessing to me.

Love you,

Linda

John Burk

Gary (and Glen) were among the first people I met when I began working with CarePartners in 2011. Before he introduced us, Earl Shelp spoke with a fondness for them both, and I understood why shortly after we met. During those early years we had a project at work about which we frequently consulted Gary. Earl and I would meet Gary for either breakfast (Kenny and Ziggy’s) or lunch (Luby’s in the Galleria). After the main conversation was out of the way, Gary and I always turned to one of our favorites: fishing. 

We discovered our mutual love of fishing early and Gary took it upon himself to show me some of his favorite honey holes along the coast when I first moved to Houston. Over the years, we have spent more than our fair share of time mostly being outrun by trout and reds in brackish Texas backwaters, hooking the occasional keeper, swapping stories, and laughing a lot.

But two things happen when I fish with Gary: there is always a moment when Gary pauses, looks around (usually as the sun yawns into its morning brilliance), and asks, “Do you know how lucky we are?” He means it rhetorically, but he asks it genuinely.  

The second thing that happens is that we will spend a good portion of our morning in the bays talking about the literacy efforts in which Gary has invested so much. He tells me about the programs, which ones are succeeding, which are struggling, how many bikes they’ve collected, how many volunteers they have, what they need and, of course, how I can help. It only took a couple of fishing trips before I realized that, yes, Gary loves fishing. But Gary loves fishing in part because it gives him the opportunity to talk to his friends about the things he really cares about. And what motivates Gary is his love for other people, especially those who may not have been as lucky as we have been. It is always a treat to listen to someone speak with enthusiasm about something that really moves them. Listening to Gary talk about the literacy needs of children is no exception. It is much like listening to a coach who loves his players.

Not long ago I commented to Gary that his demeanor—friendly, grateful, joyful—has always been one I have admired. Gary is not one to be damned with praise, so he shrugged the remark off, but I meant it sincerely. I don’t remember if I’ve ever answered him much beyond a mumble when he asked me if I knew how lucky we are. But the answer is yes. I do know. I know I am lucky to have seen many Texas sunrises over the bays. But more than that, I know how truly fortunate I am to have seen them with my friend.

Lisa Descant

Gary, you are a dear friend and mentor, though I am not sure you know that I see you in those roles. You walked into this world of support services for students with an unconquerable zest of positivity and earned grit. Both are necessary qualifications for someone who is going to persist in this good work.

And then along the way you have shared the personal stories of your life that allow me to see the man inside the man. You probably do that with everyone, sharing graciously, but you made those stories seem specially chosen for me. I needed to hear them. The redfish, the neighbors who taught you about a life different from yours, fundraising for Habitat, your brother, trips to Cabo and Paris, ashes making their way into space, a love filled partnership with Susan.

I am also forever grateful for the strategic perspectives and insights you share with me. You know that the work of CIS changes lives and saves lives, so you reach out to help me do the very best possible for CIS. You are a critical ally in our work. Timely conversations and shared information enable me to prepare, navigate and engage successfully.

You also know that my role can be lonely and unforgiving. You never feel sorry for me or allow me to wallow, but you always extend a hand during hard times. You remind me that there is more to be done, so get on it. That’s the homework assignment I will hold on to long after I get to see you and talk regularly with you. I will keep on doing the good, hard work, because students need it and deserve it.

Gary, you have enriched my life in your humble way. And I will continue to use my life to benefit students in Greater Houston. So through me, and so many others, your beautiful legacy continues.

Kelly Isberg

Hi Uncle Gary! Even though I was not able to grow up knowing you, I am forever thankful for the relationship we have built ever since I started bringing the kids down to see you in 2007. I've always enjoyed our long talks, and the stories you have to tell are amazing! I am grateful for all of the wisdom you have instilled in me. The patience you have to explain things will resonate in my mind forever. I am one to ask a lot of questions, and you have always been there to answer them. I love how we were able to talk "school" and bounce ideas off of each other. I am blessed to have had you help me be part of the "village" to raise my kids. No one can replace all that you taught them and all of the time you spent with them. Our last visit was such a blessing. I am so much more open to a couple of concepts I wasn't open to before. I will forever use your motto- "turn the page".

I love you Uncle Gary! 💕💕💕

Najah Callander

Well isn’t that cool

11 years ago, I wasn’t invited to meet with Gary, members of my team did instead. So I don’t even know how we ended up meeting. But once we did we were connected in the work, and somewhat unlikely friends.

Gary has played the role of thought partner, sponsor, mentor, cheerleader for me and many others. No matter where I was I could rely on Gary for an honest assessment of what I was doing and a ready word of encouragement or advice. Gary always lifted me up. To be honest, I am not sure why—I don’t know what he saw in me but I am so glad that he did.

He is a singular force for good in our city, he is a connector of good people who are able to make a difference in the world. I thank Gary for connecting me with other world changers across the city.

Gary and I have tackled many things over the years but I am probably most proud of our work at Sherman Elementary School. Our first project that grew into a demonstration of how school and community partnerships can work and the introduction of what would become Wraparound services in HISD.

My best memories of Gary are our lunches, our early morning calls, and our conspiracies to feed kids, give them books or services. Sometimes Gary would call me with an idea or a triumph and say “isn’t that cool” or call to tell me about a solution that’s a “no brainer”. Getting to know Gary and his entire family has been a blessing, I don’t know how or why I have had the privilege of this relationship but I am so grateful for it.

I strive to make the kind of impact that Gary has made on me and our community. I am better off because of his affection, guidance and example.  I hope that he is as proud of our relationship and our shared work as I am.

With love, Najah

Mark Gartner

I was writing the details of a particular memory when i got tonight’s thread.

Let me share it….

I’m not sure of the year, but I was probably about 8 or 9 years old. It was summer, and we were at our bay house in San Leon. I was at the ping-pong table, and through the window, I saw a car pull into the driveway. “Are we expecting visitors?” I shouted out. My mom replied “Not that I know of . . . Who’s here?”  I watched people getting out of the car, and payed particular attention to the big teenage boy in the lead. I replied to mom: I don’t know who they are, but that first guy MUST BE a relative!

Turns out, that “first guy” was Gary.  It had been years since I had seen him, but I could tell he was a Gartner!

Over the years, as I introduced Gary to my friends, most would comment: “Well you two are definitely from the same family!”  I always took pride in the fact that I “had that Gartner look!”

Every time I was with Gary, my heart was warmed to witness our similarities!

Allen & Sheri Gartner

Love the way Gary tells stories and he has several. Love listening to them as he brings you in close with a softer voice (something Gartner’s don’t usually have) and finishes the story with a twinkle in his eye and a smile. This was written with a smile and a tear. Love Gary. Give him and Susan a big hug from us.

Allen and Sheri

Nan Gleason

Thanks, Gary, for so willingly sharing your seemingly unending expertise.   Through you or Susan I got the best of your vast expertise in helping me choose the perfect, most qualified people to do my “Honey Do’s” from doctors (our dermatologist) to electricians and plumbers.  And then there was the time you and Susan came over early one morning to try and get me out of my front door which would not open.  My foundation had slipped just enough that I was unable to open my door.  I was trapped in my own house.  I’ll never forget your generosity in sharing with me all your information.  Of course, when asked, I have passed the right info along to others.  Thanks!  In my book, you are a living legend.  Thanks.   You’ve brought a smile to my face many times.

Linda Gordon

Being a friend of Gary Gartner’s makes me a better version of myself. If you want to do something better, just get Gary on your team to make that happen. One of my fun examples is playing golf with Gary. When I moved back to Houston, Gary knew I didn’t have anyone to play golf with. None of my girlfriends played golf, (this was way before Susan started playing) and when Gary heard I was looking for a group to play with, he of course invited me to join him and his friends to play. I was so excited to be included that I failed to ask any details about where, when, who, etc. etc.

A few days before the golf game I got the details… Park at Denny’s on Katy Freeway at 5:45 a.m. and he would drive us to Stephen F. Austin State Park, 45 miles away for a 7:00 a.m. tee time… this was the middle of the night for me, and without 2 cups of coffee I was not sure I would make it. The devil is in the details if you forget to ask.

We tee’d off with his friends and he proceeded to help me with a little friendly advice now and then. He was especially helpful with my short game. I actually played a pretty good game of golf, and I didn’t embarrass myself or Gary in front of his friends. We had a great day of golf, or at least morning of golf. We were finished by 10:00 a.m. and headed out to eat barbecue sandwiches for breakfast. After nearly falling asleep on the way back to Denny’s, I couldn’t wait to get home to take a nap. Golfing in the middle of the night was a lot more fun than I thought it would be, and I so appreciated Gary making that happen. I became a better golfer because Gary cared enough to help me out. Gotta love Gary for being Gary.

Pete Leonardson

With his ever-present smile, warm blue eyes, and hushed voice, Gary exudes a fatherly sense of care and concern for the people around him.  Early on, in his presence, I was made to feel like a member of the family before I was one, and this level of genuine care hasn’t changed in all of our time together. 

Gary demonstrates some of my favorite, and seldom expressed, qualities in men; empathy, emotion, self-deprecation, and desire to dig deeper.

When I think of Gary, I think of generosity.  Gary acts on his desire to help those who deserve a little more, gives his time like it’s endless, and asks for nothing in return.  We need more Gary Gartners.

Finally, I have great respect for how Gary has lived a full life following the personal trauma he has experienced. He has lived his life with a desire to make sure those around him know they are loved and appreciated.

Pete Leonardson

Susan Leonardson

Uncle Gary,

I have so many wonderful memories of you it is hard to choose which ones are my favorite. Some of my most cherished memories have been when we are just sitting around, and you are telling stories. I love the way your face always lights up, your blue eyes twinkle, and you laugh at all the silliness from the past. I wish we lived closer so I could hear those stories more often. I so admire your commitment to helping others and making the world a better place. Your dedication to helping low-income children gain access to quality education and services inspires me to give time and resources to the charities that matter to me. I will always be reminded of your kindness and generosity when I am volunteering. Thank you for instilling in me that giving back matters and helping others is life’s greatest gift.

When I look back on my younger years, I think about your reassuring presence. I remember when I was struggling with math in 8th grade and Aunt Susie was tutoring me, you were such an encouraging and calming presence. Probably because you weren’t doing the tutoring!  LOL! I was so frustrated and your belief in me helped me to persevere. You have continued to be that person for me into adulthood.  Thank you for supporting me in my career pursuits, marriage, and parenthood. I have loved watching my children get to know you. You are so patient, and you seem to delight in their presence. I imagine that is how my dad would have been with them. I am forever grateful for your love and support in my life. Thank you for your hugs, love, and support, and for being the best uncle a girl could have. I will always love you more… and the very, very most.

XOXOXO Susan Elizabeth Gartner II

Anna Jane Leonardson

A few of the things I think about when I look back on memories I have with Uncle Gary include going out for breakfast, going to Pike Place Market, and just spending time talking to him. The last time he and Aunt Susie came to Seattle was 2 summers ago, and during that time, I was redoing my room. One of the days, some of the contractors came over to the house and were assembling a few things in my room, and Uncle Gary wanted to get involved. He talked to them and discussed how they should hang a piece of furniture and place it on the wall. That place in my room will always remind me of him. I love you so much Uncle Gary and thank you for helping me with my room! -Anna Jane

Luke Leonardson

The first thing I think of when I think of Uncle Gary is a time when we were at my house hanging out, he was showing the amazing personality that he possesses along with his incredible card skills. He was showing me a trick and let me tell you it was complicated, so complicated that when I bet him a quarter, he completely fooled me. He did not take my money but instead used the moment as a life lesson. He taught me never to gamble. This is just one of the many memories I share with this incredible uncle. Love you Uncle Gary- Luke

Rick Cruz

Dear Gary,

You’ve been a ray of light not only in my life, but in the lives of countless youth and families.

The support you provided me when I was dealing with extremely difficult personal challenges helped me stay the course and get through them.

You reminded me of the importance of my health, and encouraged me to take bold actions that quite literally probably saved my life (my diabetes going into full remission is due to you).

Because of you, I have learned to love myself more, and while I still have a ways to go, I feel confident in the direction I am headed.

Your love for others - particularly those from underserved backgrounds - always inspired me and reminded me that despite all the challenges and injustices, there are good people in this world. I consider myself extremely fortunate to have been able to partner with you in this journey of serving others.

I’ll never forget our many conversations, the time I caught a big red in Matagorda with you, and all the time we spent together.

But above all, you have become my best friend. I will always be grateful to you, and while I will miss you so greatly, you will always be part of who I am and I will always remember you with great love and admiration.
Con un abrazo,

Rick

Holly Maria Flynn Vilaseca

Dear Gary,

You are one special person. I cannot tell you how much I appreciate your kindness and your willingness to go all in on causes you hold near and dear to your heart. Your passion combined with your relentless pursuit to bring people together to remove barriers and get it done for our kids and community speak volumes to your character and heart. When you see a need, you respond. You saw the importance of building homes in community of need and then ensuring kids had all the wraparound supports at in place while at school to thrive. As a community member, you championed an effort at Sherman ES and at other schools and at the district in a way that will leave a legacy of impact. Your heart, brilliance in pulling people together and your ability to do so with urgency is admirable. I am lucky to have seen your magic first hand and have learned so many things from you in these past several years.

Gary, you believed in me and in my leadership because our values aligned. You have become such a source of strength and light for me in my decision-making and my ability to lead real, impact. You stood with me time and time again as a mentor, advisor, friend, and, well- if ya didn’t know, I’m now telling ya- a father figure. I am so grateful for you, your spirit and your heart. Thank you for pouring goodness into me and the countless others you believe in that work together to build a stronger community.

With love and gratitude, always.

Holly María Flynn Vilaseca

Ann Lee

I remember Gary and Susan watching my daughter Laura one Saturday because I had to work. When I went to pick her up Gary had been teaching her how to use an old adding machine without looking at the numbers. I was so impressed and proud.

Another Gary story was when I was going to buy my house he told me a story about an Asian man he was trying to sell a house to. The man kept telling Gary the price was too high. They went back and forth several times until the man finally accepted the offer. The man told Gary, now that is what this house is truly worth.

My last story which isn’t really a story, but I will always remember Gary walking me down the aisle when my daughter got married.

Love,

Ann

Robert Rivera

It has been over 30 years that I have known Gary. I first met Gary in Fifth Ward as he was doing Habitat for Humanity housing. My first impression was "wow this guy is a go getter!' Just the audaciousness of putting yourself on the limb and saying you are building 100 new homes. I found out later that he did not have the money in place until after the project had started. What a tremendous faith this man has, I thought to myself. And more impressively, he built the homes. What an accomplishment!

Over the last ten years, Gary and I have gotten much closer. We rekindled our acquittances when I discovered his work at Sherman Elementary. He so selflessly gave his all to help the students and families at Sherman Elementary. I must admit that Sherman Elementary is dear to my heart since I went to school there as a young boy.

Over time Gary and I have grown in our friendship. We have collaborated in so many projects that I cannot even remember them all. But one universal truth emerged in our friendship and that is Gary's unyielding desire to serve others. Gary's mantra to me was “tell me how we can do it and not that it can not be done.” Honestly, at times I had to tell Gary, we can not do everything. Then he would smile at me and tell me we have a good partnership.

Gary has been an inspiration to me. I marvel at his energy and his political insights. I will always cherish his wisdom and his unflinching faith in people. I am a better person because Gary has been my friend and fellow troublemaker. Thank you for all you have given to me and the greater Houston community.

With deep admiration Robert Rivera